I have seen plenty of times the fairer gender keeps on complaining of the biased nature of men. They say that the women do not get the respect and significance even in todays world because of this biasness. I wonder, how far(or close) it is from the reality.
I am sure that everyone will agree that the situation of women in general is in far better position today, than it was a century ago. From the history that I have read and understood, in past women was treated just as an object of lust. And somehow I felt that the women of those times never revolted against it. I am not assuming here that they were happy about this situation. But probably the world was not that open and they never did the so called out of box thinking about their situation in the society.
But today, when I find almost every housewife cribbing to his husband for one thing or the other, every bahu abusing her in laws for some reason, I really feel sad. No, please do not misunderstand me. I am not generalising, that this is happening everywhere but yes I see it happening at more place than not.
I wonder, is this the freedom that women was lacking earlier. Is this the proper use of freedom of speech and act. I often find that the women have the more myopic view than men. The education of women matters but soemhow does not help to great extent.
Probably we are in transitional state, hence the fairer gender has not explored the right horizons to explore the worth of freedom they have in todays world.
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Hi Krishna,
As u said "The education of women matters but somehow does not help to great extent. Probably we are in transitional state, hence the fairer gender has not explored the right horizons to explore the worth of freedom they have in today’s world."
I believe It doesn't depends on the Gender......
It more depends on an Individual, the kind of upbringing, family values, their education and the social surroundings they have been into, the kind of exposure they possess....
Yes! Today Women has the freedom to express herself but the thoughts and expression depends upon lot of other factors not just being a women defines the characteristics.. And everybody is not lucky to have the right environment or the feasible conditions/exposures to become an ideal....specially girls, still have some restrictions from the very beginning which restrain them to get proper exposure than the guys do, so there are definitely some drawbacks but this doesn't mean that guys are perfect.
In relation to what you said, “when I find almost every housewife cribbing to his husband for one thing or the other, every bahu abusing her in laws for some reason, I really feel sad."
Yes i do agree its sad ,but not only the wives, daughter in laws crib about things or in-laws have seen the husbands, parents cribbing about the bahu n her family...I have seen Father of a family cribbing about his wedding arrangements even after 35 years of his marriage...concluding not only bahu or wife crib anybody can crib about anything and at any time. Most of the time its saas or bahu cribbing about each other because always a girl has to leave her world and adjust in a complete new environment, there would be definitely many reasons of disagreements which inturn results in this kind of situations...
I think saas-bahu drama...If they can accept the relationship as daughter and Mother instead of saas-bahu,it can be reduced to some extent,after all we have some agreements and disagreements with our mothers and daughters too.
Also I think in this kind of situation husbands have more responsibility to settle down things and maintain the the balance at home.
That’s all from my side. It was based on my observations, donno much... not married yet :-)
Pooja
Pooja,I never say that guys are perfect and girls are not. My point was the freedom the women gets today, is not being utilised properly.
Try to have a broader view of the subject before you put in your comments.
It is not related to current post but I am really concerned that why you deleted the post you made after this one which went something like Bichde sab...Posts should be kept online once published.
Nitesh, I still have those thoughts with me. I have just removed it from the blog and kept it with me as a mail. I felt that it was not right place for that stuff.
Anyway i have given more food for a good mind in my latest blog :-)
Hi Krishna,
Nice blog...more importantly nice thoughts... I do feel dat these days women liberalisation has had a major impact on the families but at the same time I think that its not only this thats hampering the proximity of family members but there are many other factors too and at many times male is at fault. I also understand that you do not mean dat guys are perfect or not.
I want to emphasize here that we need to educate our children/sibling the importance of freedom (watever independence they have). Be it a girl or a guy. Once we start doing this I am sure things will look better. I also feel since we r in a transition phase we r facing the situation you mentioned. But its we who has to make sure that the transition doesnt take long...
We need to teach our near and dear ones that " With More Power comes More Responsibility."
---couldnt make myself not write sth----
And somehow I felt that the women of those times never revolted against it. But probably the world was not that open and they never did the so called out of box thinking about their situation in the society.---------
well Wat I would say is its not that they did not do an out of box thinking …they might have but it was never heard, it never went out of the 4 walls of the house …y? cos of the men who were the dominating sex (even now is)…cant complain much cos they are born that way (atleast that’s wat is said).
But today, when I find almost every housewife cribbing to his husband for one thing or the other, every bahu abusing her in laws for some reason, I really feel sad.-----
Good Mr Rai that you feel sad but don’t you think you are feeling sad for the wrong reason.? You need to understand y that’s happening? That’s cos in laws now don’t get a chance to abuse her (which they would have loved to get!!!) and if they do she knows exactly where the line of tolerance is being crossed and abuse is coming into picture…don’t u think?
Is this the proper use of freedom of speech and act. I often find that the women have the more myopic view than men.----
This might not be the proper use of freedom but its neither utilized that way everywhere. As you would agree all men are not the same all women too aren’t the same. Men themselves would love to dominate or misuse the freedom when given a chance then why not a women?(well I actually feel you watch a lot off saas bahu serials ;) cos that’s exactly wat happens there…but believe me buddy that’s not the truth)
The education of women matters but soemhow does not help to great extent.-------
education helps to an extet you cant even imagine it could help.
the fairer gender has not explored the right horizons to explore the worth of freedom they have in todays world.-----
Its just a matter of time when some would make you understand that we are not only the fairer gender but also the intelligent ones!!!!
Anyways I enjoyed the conversation…keep blogging!!!
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